From ancient Egyptian tombs, to
Irish and Scottish cairns, and East Asian cave paintings depicting burials,
commemorating death has been a part of the human experience for millennia. We
each experience death at some point and the way we respond to it is deeply
personal. Bereavement is not solely a human condition either. Research has
uncovered evidence showing many animal species engage in behavior indicative of
grief. Scientific reasoning behind human and non-human animals mourning surmise
that attachment, or love, for family, mates, friends and others close to you drive
safety, protection, and reproduction. Neurobiologists conclude that attachment
was evolutionarily selected for to ensure survival and that grief is a
side-effect of that mechanism. These innate characteristics grew into
complicated, multifaceted belief systems and behaviors surrounding life and
death.
What started out as a hard-wired
trait, with time, morphed into formalized rituals and practices. According to
the “Funeral Guide” 2017 article, Why do
we have funeral rituals?, “Humans are social animals and we have an
inherent need to make sense of our surroundings. When someone we love dies, we
can find it difficult to put the meaning of anything into context anymore.” While
humans struggled to understand death and other unexplainable aspects of life,
they created stories, myths, and eventually religions to help cope with loss
and life’s mysteries. Scholar and author Huston Smith defines religion as “beliefs
and patterns of behavior by which people try to deal with what they view as
important problems that can’t be solved by other means: e.g. the need to
confront and explain life and death. All cultures have religions, which are
powerful and dynamic forces in human society.” The general belief in an
afterlife, heaven, hell, and a soul are basically universal and have dictated
behaviors associated with loss. Christianity and Judaism have varying beliefs regarding
heaven and hell, but the generalized concepts of either eternal salvation or
eternal damnation remain the same. The website “Interfaith Family” explains
that the Talmud depicts Gan Eden, the Garden of Eden, as a place of “spiritual fulfillment,”
and Gehennom, Hell, as “a place of intense punishment and cleansing.” The Bible
has many descriptions of judgments leading to either eternal life in Paradise
or wrath and fury condemning the unrighteous to eternal fire and torment in
what most translations consider Hell. People comfort themselves and others with
the idea that loved ones will go to heaven after they die and eventually, they
will meet up with them again upon their own death. Conversely, if people or
loved ones were hurt by someone else, they are comforted believing that the
perpetrator will suffer an equal punishment in hell.
Other popular religions have
varying beliefs regarding death. Islam, for example, also believes in a
Paradise and a Hell. Prominently Indian religions believe in reincarnation,
that the deceased will begin a new life in a new body or form. South Asian
religions hold similar beliefs to reincarnation describing a sort of rebirth.
The major themes throughout all these religions recreate aspects from much more
ancient myths and cultures. Not being able to comprehend death, coping with
loss, and surviving amongst others compelled humans to create scenarios to help
with the grieving process, but also to guide behaviors while living. Fearing
hell or eternal damnation urges people to engage in good conduct while they are
alive. While major religions still dominate most of the population, scientific
discoveries, an understanding of evolution, and realizing the many reasons why
and how people die have altered the way some humans deal with loss and loosens
the grip fear has over living behaviors. This may include the ways we view sex
and sexual relationships, marriage, sexual orientation, to more reckless or
harmful behaviors. It also includes how we observe major life events, such as
marriage, birth, and of course death.
Customary ways to treat the
deceased, for mourners to dress and behave, where, when, and how to dispose of
the remains are just a few areas where religious observances have strict
guidelines, but more recently secular and environmentally friendly ways to
minister to remains have also become popular. Some of these methods include
mushroom suits, aquamation, sky burials, and eternal reefs. “Green burials,” or,
“eco-burials” eliminate preserving the body with chemicals or embalming fluids
and take place 24-48 hours after death. They use a biodegradable coffin and
seek to limit any unnecessary environmental impact. The human need to grieve
can still take the form of a ceremony without religious overtones.
Non-religious gatherings to remember the deceased and to formally say goodbye
help mourners express their feelings and offer condolences to loved ones.
The need to create religions,
although born out of the need for survival and to help make sense of death, has
since twisted into the actual cause of countless massacres. The fact that so much
violence has been, and still is, caused by religion is a sort of phenomenon,
but since religions are such powerful forces in human society, they can be used
as ideological weapons to justify wars, invasions, and persecutions. The
Crusades, the Spanish Inquisition, the Thirty Years’ War, the Northern Ireland
Conflict, the Holocaust, jihad in the Middle East, the Buddhist Uprising, are
just a few. Modern times see new ways to wage religious war from suicide
bombers who don’t fear death because they believe they will be honored in their
afterlife, to Islamophobia causing hate crimes, to a rise of radical Christian
fundamentalism in the United States that is causing a wave of intolerance,
oppressive “religious freedom” laws, and general unrest. Religion went from
helping humans deal with death to actually dealing in death. Presently, America is facing a white, Christian uprising
that promotes guns, white male supremacy, and racial, religious, and cultural
intolerance. The country is host to mass shootings at any given time, where the
latest slaughter consisting of two mass shooting occurring less than 24 hours
apart on August 3 and 4, saw over 30
lives lost. The entire country shares condolences, holds memorial services, and
attempts to come together universally regardless of belief systems. The
families of those victims grieve together, yet separately based on their
religion or lack thereof. It’s a labyrinthine cycle of belief systems causing
murder then bringing strangers together to mourn.
The Satanic Temple is a religion, but its
tenets are clear. We do not proselytize, we are nonviolent, and we strive for
justice. As Satanists we trust science, reject superstition, and aim to live
compassionately without requiring the fear of supernatural retribution to do so.
Losing a loved one may challenge these beliefs and may stimulate the desire to
demonstrate our feelings or pay tribute in some grand way. Suffering the death
of a loved one may compel us to consider the stories of an afterlife and heaven
because it is a shock to our rationale to come to terms with death, especially
of those we love deeply. As stated in The
Better Angels of Our Nature: Why Violence Has Declined by Steven Pinker, “The doctrine of the sacredness of the
soul sounds vaguely uplifting, but in fact is highly malignant. It discounts
life on earth as just a temporary phase that people pass through, indeed, an
infinitesimal fraction of their existence. Death becomes a mere rite of
passage, like puberty or a midlife crisis.” The psychological impact of loss affects
everyone differently and the desire for something after death is
understandable, but as Pinker suggests, life on Earth should not be diminished because
it’s temporary; rather, its significance should be magnified for that reason
and the lives of our loved ones regarded while they’re with us and after
they’re gone with the utmost compassion.